How children cope with a move is affected by their age and where they are going. Do not underestimate! Moving with kids can be a very stressful experience!
When children are older, the stress and the emotional side of the move are a priority. When you are moving with a baby, the main task is to ensure the physical comfort of the child during the relocation process.
Babies need the constant presence of a parent. Your child, no matter what age he or she is, should be prepared for the move, so it does not come as a surprise. We always advice when moving with the kids, if your child is older, speak with him/her as early as possible. They should understand the moving process.
Your role as a parent is to provide physical and emotional comfort of your children during the relocation. When you are moving with your kids, during the actual move you may face your children experiencing different emotions – excitement, anger, relief, sadness, pain. Help them to overcome the emotional barrier of the move and discuss it freely and openly. When a child feels respected and appreciated, it is easier to discuss all aspects of the move with him/her.
The initial attitude of the child towards the move is a major factor in ensuring the smooth transition. Tell the children about everything and explain why the relocation is good for the whole family, not just for the parents. If your children are young, you should keep things light and fun. A useful tip is to explain how exactly their toys and games will be moved, because they are an important part of the child’s comfort at your new residence. They will also learn how the process of relocating works. Encourage them to speak freely about their feelings and concerns and address every need of theirs.
The issues that teenagers face about moving are more complex. Teenagers are constantly seeking approval and validation. This is most often achieved through groups of friends. Changing school, leaving friends and giving up opportunities is crucial to teenagers. Although they understand the idea of the move, it is hard for them to accept it easily. Fear of the unknown will make them feel insecure. They may also experience anxiety.